Our Wedding: The Ceremony


When Pete and I decided to get married in Maui, we knew one of the major challenges was going to be finding a venue that suited our tastes and could accommodate our guests.  We looked at several hotels on the island and while many of them were beautiful, the cookie cutter wedding packages they offered and the lack of privacy really turned us off.  Not to mention that most resorts had outrageous minimum spends on food and beverage, which for 50 guests seemed a bit excessive.  I was excited when Pete found Sugarman’s Estate on the one and only trip he took to Hawaii before the big day (I never went).  The secluded private estate just south of the Wailea area where we were planning on staying offered a gorgeous grassy area overlooking the calm turquoise blue waters of the Pacific to walk down the aisle.  And when I did walk down the aisle to the sounds of a harp and violin, I also heard the gentle waves crashing against the black Hawaiian rock.


Because neither Pete nor I are terribly religious, we wanted the ceremony to represent ourselves more than anything.  We wrote our own vows to each other and we had our cousins perform readings.  One of my favorites is A Conversation Between Piglet and Pooh Bear:

“Pooh” whispered Piglet.

“Yes, Piglet” replied Pooh.

“Nothing,” answered Piglet,

“I just wanted to be sure of you.”

“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.”

“It’s so much more friendly with two.”

“Pooh, promise me you won’t forget about me, ever. Not even when I am a hundred.”

Pooh thought for a little.

“How old shall I be then?”


Pooh nodded. “I promise,” he said.

“Some people care too much, I think it’s called love.”


Although we kept our ceremony brief, it was honestly one of my favorite parts of the whole day.  It was certainly the most meaningful.


We walked back up the aisle as Mr. and Mrs. Bendall to Somewhere Over the Rainbow.  We stopped briefly for our second kiss as man and wife! 🙂



Photography: Scott Drexler, Photos on Maui

Venue: Sugarman’s Estate